The Ugh Project
Spice level, variable. Ugh level, max. Mostly.
This book is about me, and it’s about you. In a pile of flesh in a hedonistic club in Paris I saw God and felt with my soul that we are all one. The story is that I dated all the men. And some of the women. Every single one of the men. Old, young, handsome, ugly, kind, cruel, every inhabited continent represented, all major religions, as well as all levels of education and career success. I dated a homeless man, and men in mansions. Their similarities are striking. I dated every single one of them. All their stories didn’t make it into the book, for almost every one you read here there is a sleuth of similar, less interesting interactions mirroring. Men think they are so unique and individual. They are not. Realizing that we are more similar than different is a relief to me, I am like the other women, I’m not different. So this is for me, and also for you. If you can see me, and I can see you, we are not alone. We bear witness to each other. In the Eras in front of you we will meet unbelievable beauty, see rejection turn into deep connection and by the end of this you will be familiar with the trends, vernacular and the destruction of old fashioned love that modern dating is.
I am tired of being quiet and complacent. I am tired of men getting away with abusive, unkind behavior. Inspired by all the other women, and especially Taylor Swift (who will figure more in these stories than you might think), I am taking you through the dark, the painful, the sexy, the funny and the beautiful in my post divorce experience of interacting with men romantically with you. All the stories are true, fortunately and unfortunately. We will encounter such beauty and vulnerability, connections unfolding over years with trials and reflections. We will also see some of the worst traits of human behavior, levels of self centeredness and cruelty that are vertigo inducing. We will take this ride together, you are invited to live vicariously through me. It is part of making sense. Hopefully by the end of this, we might have some level of understanding of human behavior including our own reflections, and perhaps we will have an answer to the ever looming question: Why and how are (straight) men such a reliable disappointment?